As found in Counseling Resource a scholarly article on a manipulation technique used by certain controlling personality types.  Check out the video and pay attention to what is said, then read the rest of the article on a technique called Gaslighting.


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Gaslighting is a sophisticated manipulation tactic which certain types of personalities use to create doubt in the minds of others. Here’s how it works and what to watch out for.


In a stage play and suspense thriller from the 1930s entitled “Gas Light,” a conniving husband tries to make the wife he wishes to get rid of think she is losing her mind by making subtle changes in her environment, including slowly and steadily dimming the flame on a gas lamp.

In recent years, the term “gaslighting” has come to be applied to attempts by certain kinds of personalities, especially psychopaths — who are among the personalities most adept at sophisticated tactics of manipulation — to create so much doubt in the minds of their targets of exploitation that the victim no longer trusts their own judgment about things and buys into the assertions of the manipulator, thus coming under their power and control.


Effective gaslighting can be accomplished in several different ways. Sometimes, a person can assert something with such an apparent intensity of conviction that the other person begins to doubt their own perspective. Other times, vigorous and unwavering denial coupled with a display of righteous indignation can accomplish the same task. Bringing up historical facts that seem largely accurate but contain minute, hard-to-prove distortions and using them to “prove” the correctness of one’s position is another method. Gaslighting is particularly effective when coupled with other tactics such as shaming and guilting. Anything that aids in getting another person to doubt their judgment and back down will work.


Gaslighting is just one of the many weapons in the arsenal of personalities hell-bent on having their way, even if it means doing so by subtle and covert means of conning others. One of the most important points I make in all my articles, books, and other writings about the narcissistic and most especially, the aggressive personalities, is that they will do whatever it takes to secure and maintain a position of advantage over others.


And some of the most effective means at their disposal are tactics that conceal their malevolent intent while simultaneously prompting their “target” to accede to their desires. I outline the most common ones covertly aggressive folks use to manipulate others in my book In Sheep’s Clothing. But it would be virtually impossible to fully list all of the various tactics expert manipulators use.

Deception is often the key ingredient in manipulation. Deception can be accomplished by outright denial, distortion of key aspects of events, and a variety of other methods, especially the more sophisticated lying techniques. And, as I have mentioned in a prior post (see “Lying: The Ultimate Manipulation Tactic”), a really accomplished liar can deceive another person by merely reciting a litany of absolutely true things — while deliberately and cleverly leaving out one or two crucial elements that would change the entire character of what they’re trying to make you believe.


But a common element among all the tactics manipulators use is that they cause the person being targeted to doubt their gut instincts about what’s going on. Their gut tells them they’re under attack or that someone is trying to get the better of them, and they intuitively go on the defensive.


But because they often can’t find any clear, direct, objective evidence that the other person is merely trying to disadvantage them, they start doubting and questioning themselves. This is the real secret of effective manipulation. If the “target” were solidly convinced they were in the process of being done in, they’d more likely put up more resistance instead of capitulating. Manipulators know this. They win by getting the other person to back down or give in.

  Gaslighting has come to some prominence lately because several authors have highlighted it as one of the more crafty tactics psychopaths use to disadvantage their victims. But many character-disturbed individuals, most especially the aggressive personalities, are prone to using numerous tactics, including covert techniques, to get the better of their targets. Their goal is always to win or secure whatever it is they want.


And they’ll do whatever they have to do to get it. Sometimes the most effective way to do that is to avoid red-flagging their intentions but rather get the other person to unwittingly but voluntarily surrender. Instill shame, instill guilt, instill fear, or instill great doubt, and the other person will likely back off the stance they really wanted to take.



I have written a series of articles on the manipulation tactics of covertly-aggressive and other disturbed personalities (see my Series on Manipulation Tactics). In that series, many of the most common manipulation tactics are revealed and discussed. Regretfully, I didn’t originally include a post on “gaslighting”. Hopefully, this post will serve to help remedy that omission.

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Analyze the body of his speech, is this not gaslighting at its finest?:  "My concern is, with Mr. Rotta, is the random use of the ability to say whatever he wants about whomever he chooses, whenever he chooses to do it.  And to create a forum to routinely bludgeon people.  While he has every right, as provided by the Constitution, it doesn't make it right for you to be able to do that.  And it's upsetting to me.  You know I'm supposed to protect and serve people, but I look around here on this council, I look around in the audience, I look in the mirror and I see people that have been bludgeoned by this constitutionally-protected speech, and it just doesn't seem right to me.

It just doesn't seem right-- if you ask Mr. Rotta if someone were to do that to him, would he consider that to be right?  I don't consider he would, but then he randomly and arbitrarily does that to other folks.  I myself have been called, my physical self appearance has been called into question, I've been called a pervert or some other type of terms.  I'm not, and I don't appreciate that, and my family don't appreciate reading that or hearing that.

And it's because of your exercising your free right to say those things, or your view of your right to say such things, not fully recognizing that it hurts me, it hurts my family, it hurts the family and the members that are seated up here, that are seated in the audience.

You should be ashamed of yourself... and I want to say, I want to say to those people that have volunteered their time to actives, reserve police officers.  Those folks are here to provide a service, free of charge, to the citizens of this city, because they want to be part of the solution, not part of the problem.  I would suggest for you, Mr. Rotta, if you want to be part of the solution you better act appropriately, and you treat people with the simple respect that you demand that you are treated with.  You should be ashamed of yourself.  I would like to apologize, apologize on Mr. Rotta's behalf to those men and women who have served as volunteer police officers and reserve police officers, as volunteer firefighters, as people that have set up events, people that volunteer their time with churches and other organizations to help this community, and I would say to you that I reject your notion that you just indiscriminately bash these people, and beat out of them the volunteer spirit.  Shame on you Mr. Rotta; Shame on you.  That's all I have to say."

Well done X. This is exactly what the Democrats, Obama and the civil rights movement have done to whites. Whites are "afraid" to say what's on their minds regarding minorities because of the fear being tagged as racists. This has profoundly altered the political scene and is the main reason Obama is President and why many folks refuse to question what is going on in our Country. It's unbelievable that whites are called racists because they want our borders sealed from the invasion of illegals. Or whites are racists for questioning the birthplace of the President even though there is substantial proof that he was not born on U.S. soil. The liberals are keeping conservatives at bay by using gaslighting as you have described it. Chief Barnett is shining example of someone using his position while sitting with he Council to "gaslight" the public and a citizen who has proof of illegal activity perpetrated by City officials. In retrospect I would suggest that there exist another type of gassing that is coming from the Mayor, Council and Barnett. Gassing that forces individuals to plug their noses.


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